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2021-03-14 · Ep 944 · 19m

My Life has Changed Incredibly

TokyoPersonal AnnouncementFatherhoodLivestreamCommunity
Summary

My Life has Changed Incredibly

Overview

In this deeply personal and emotional livestream, John Daub announces the birth of his son, born just the night before in Tokyo. Filmed on a windy morning near the Tokyo Skytree, John walks toward St. Luke's International Hospital in Tsukiji to visit his wife, Kanae, and their newborn baby for the first time. He explains why he kept the pregnancy private during the pandemic and shares his overwhelming feelings of joy, exhaustion, and gratitude.

The video serves as both a personal milestone and a thank-you to the Only in Japan Go community. John reflects on how his viewers have become like family over the years, supporting him through low times and now celebrating this high point. He discusses the challenges of new fatherhood, the hospital's COVID-19 visiting restrictions, and the search for a name that bridges his American heritage and his son's Japanese upbringing.

This episode stands out as a rare glimpse into John's private life, contrasting sharply with his usual travel and food content. It highlights the human side of expat life in Japan, the bonds formed through livestreaming, and the universal experience of becoming a parent.

Highlights

  • 00:11:00 John announces the birth of his baby boy born the previous night.
  • 00:58:00 Explanation of hospital COVID protocols limiting visits to 30 minutes a day.
  • 03:25:00 Contrasting this best day with his previous video about the 2011 earthquake.
  • 04:28:00 John describes his YouTube community as family.
  • 10:15:00 Reveals they went to Costco recently to buy diapers.
  • 11:14:00 Describes the baby's strong grip and surprising amount of hair.
  • 12:30:00 Confirms he will not name the baby "Toby" (the crow name).
  • 17:01:00 Arrives near St. Luke's Hospital in historic Tsukiji.
  • 18:19:00 Celebrates approaching 100,000 subscribers on the new channel.

Timeline / Chapters

  • 00:00:00 Intro near Tokyo Skytree on a windy day.
  • 00:11:00 Birth announcement and apology for secrecy.
  • 01:44:00 Walking down to the riverbank to talk.
  • 03:25:00 Reflecting on life changes since the 3.11 earthquake video.
  • 04:28:00 Thanking the livestream community.
  • 08:10:00 Walking closer to the hospital, excitement building.
  • 11:14:00 Describing the baby's appearance and strength.
  • 12:30:00 Discussing naming conventions and the "Toby" joke.
  • 16:16:00 Shout-out to friends Paolo and Greg for advice.
  • 17:01:00 Arriving at St. Luke's Hospital area.
  • 19:23:00 Sign-off and promise to talk more tomorrow.

Japan Travel Tips

  • Hospital Visiting Rules: During the pandemic (2021), St. Luke's International Hospital limited visitors to 30 minutes per day, and only one person (spouse) was allowed. Family members could not visit.
  • St. Luke's International Hospital: Located in Tsukiji, this is a historic hospital where the first American embassy in Japan once stood. It is a prominent medical facility for foreigners and locals.
  • Naming Customs: John mentions having 12 days to register the baby's name. In Japan, births must be registered within 14 days.
  • Transport: John walks from near Skytree (Sumida) to Tsukiji (Chuo), about a 20-minute walk, highlighting how compact central Tokyo can be.

Japanese Language & Culture Notes

  • Tsukiji (築地): A historic district in Tokyo known for the former fish market. John notes the hospital is located here in a area with significant history (former American embassy site).
  • Naming Period: John mentions having 12 days to name the baby. In Japan, parents must submit a birth registration (shusshō todoke) within 14 days of birth.
  • Privacy vs. Public: John discusses the cultural and personal balance between public sharing and private life, noting that many Japanese keep pregnancies private until birth due to superstition or caution, though he also cites personal preference.
  • 3.11 Earthquake: John references his video about the Great East Japan Earthquake (March 11, 2011), contrasting that "worst day" with this "best day."

Food & Drink Guide

No specific food or drink is featured in this video.

People

  • John Daub: Host and father. Emotional, grateful, and excited throughout the video.
  • Kanae Daub: John's wife. She delivered the baby and is recovering in the hospital. John praises her strength and secrecy.
  • Leo (Newborn Son): Born the night before. Described as small, strong, hairy, and healthy. (Note: Name not finalized in video, later known as Leo).
  • Paolo: John's friend and fellow father who provided advice and baby clothes.
  • Greg: Another friend with children who offered support.
  • Toby (crow): Mentioned humorously as a name option that is "off the table."

Key Takeaways

  • Community Connection: Livestreaming creates deep bonds; John views his viewers as extended family.
  • Life Changes Quickly: A single night can shift perspective from past trauma (3.11) to future hope (newborn).
  • Parenting Reality: Even experienced friends advise that every first time is hard, regardless of age.
  • Cultural Bridge: Naming the child requires considering both American and Japanese identities.

Notable Quotes

  • 00:58:00 "Now I understand what my mother went through. The kid was so small. And Kanae was in a lot of pain. I just want to apologize to my mother and all mothers out there."
  • 03:25:00 "Just like 48 hours ago I was talking about the worst day in my life, right? About the 311 earthquake, 2011. And now I'm talking about one of the best days, if not the best in my life."
  • 04:28:00 "You're basically like family. And I kind of did not understand how we can connect via YouTube like this."
  • 08:10:00 "It's crazy, isn't it? Life can change overnight."
  • 12:30:00 "I'm not going to name the baby Toby. There's certain names that are off."

Related Topics

  • Only in Japan Go Livestreams
  • Expat Family Life in Tokyo
  • Tokyo Hospitals and Healthcare
  • Japanese Naming Customs
  • 2011 Tohoku Earthquake Reflections

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Full Transcript

00:11:00 John Daub: Hello everybody, welcome to Tokyo on a very windy day. Check it out over there. Tokyo Skytree looking great. As the camera shakes from all this wind, I hope the mic is okay. Last night, in the middle of the night, Kanae and I delivered—well she did most of the work—a baby boy. And I think a lot of you might have suspected that she was pregnant a long time ago. I really apologize that I didn't tell you about this months ago. Actually, I'm not. We wanted to keep this a little bit separate. And you never know what's going to happen during a pregnancy. It doesn't make a lot of sense to announce it publicly to the world.

00:58:00 John Daub: She delivered a baby boy last night. I'm going over there to visit her. I came home at around 6 in the morning. And I'm really lucky because I don't live that far away from the hospital. So I can walk there in about 20 minutes or so. Because of the COVID protocols, I can only visit for 30 minutes a day. Her family can't go and visit her either. Just me because of the pandemic. But I can go. So I'm going to go and see the baby. And last night, he came out. He was so small. I was freaking out. Now I understand what my mother went through. The kid was so small. And Kanae was in a lot of pain. I just want to apologize to my mother and all mothers out there. How do you do it? You're amazing.

01:44:00 John Daub: I wanted to start here on this bridge because I just thought it was a beautiful place. And I love rivers. We haven't decided on the name and no, I'm not gonna be asking everybody on the internet to help name the baby. Okay, so but if you do have naming suggestions I would appreciate it. Wow, this wind is strong. I can't even get my mask back on. I'm gonna walk down the steps here and then have a little talk. And then after I get down there I might end the livestream because I'm really excited to get back to the hospital.

02:32:00 John Daub: I am really really sorry I did not tell you. I know that some of the other YouTubers and some other people might make announcements publicly. Everybody is different. I just wanted to also have a little separation between a public and a private life and I think most of you can understand that. I was extremely nervous and over the last few months I've been very very tired and there's a lot of changes that have been going on in my life. I'm really excited to get back to my own life. And I can't announce a lot of this stuff, I can't tell you about it, but I wanted to until the baby was born and now it is. And Kanae did an amazing job of making sure that you did not know. We were just at a Costco video a couple of days ago.

03:25:00 John Daub: It's really for me it's such a big change because just like 48 hours ago I was talking about the worst day in my life, right? About the 311 earthquake, 2011. And now I'm talking about one of the best days, if not the best in my life. It's pretty incredible.

04:28:00 John Daub: I'm trying to say thank you to everybody. I couldn't hold it in anymore. I know that over the last seven, eight years, so many of you have been watching what I've been doing here in Japan, following the Only in Japan series. In 2017, I started live streaming this channel here. And the relationship that I have with a lot of you is just so strong. You're basically like family. And I kind of did not understand how we can connect via YouTube like this. And she started to live stream with me and now she totally understands. That's why she's more in the live streams because of how amazing our family here is. And it feels like I'm sharing this with you right now. This is like family. So our family just got bigger.

05:39:00 John Daub: We don't have a name yet because I didn't want to know. You know, I want to talk about this tomorrow because I need to really let this soak in. It's still kind of fresh news. And I woke up this morning like going, what? I have a boy. So like really in shock. But I want to talk about this tomorrow when everything settles down a little bit. There are a lot of things that were going through my mind as we were in a taxi cab last night making our way into the hospital.

06:26:00 John Daub: This is like seeing our family here. I know all of you. I'm trying my best because I want to say thank you.

08:10:00 John Daub: I can't wait for you to get back here to Japan. Our family is huge. I did not expect it. I just wanted to make an announcement. I got to settle down and just talk to you tomorrow about this. I'm getting so excited. I'm only like five minute walk away from where Kanae's hospital is. It's crazy, isn't it? Life can change overnight.

09:03:00 John Daub: As I was saying just a couple of minutes ago before I read the names of so many people here, you all—I know since I started live streaming, you might have been following me since 2013 when I started on YouTube. We've really grown together as a community. We have amazing people here. You've enriched my life more than I could ever tell you. In times where I have been very low, I would go live because it just makes me happy to share energy with you on the other side of the screen. And a lot of you have been in better times able to come to Japan. Some of you have met Kanae. We consider you our friends, if not like family to us because we've been together for so long. And that's a really really important connection that we have. And when something good happens and you send me an email, I can't check every email, but I feel that same elation and it's nice to be able to share something with all of you that's just so good in such a tough time.

10:15:00 John Daub: I have a lot more to say. I'm going to save it for tomorrow because I better get to the hospital because I can only see Kanae between three and five p.m. We actually went to Costco the other day just to get diapers. And maybe some of you might have picked up on that.

11:14:00 John Daub: Before I end this live stream, because I'm getting kind of emotional, the baby came out and it had so much hair. I did not expect that—more than me these days as I get a little bit older. But we are thinking of a name. And I did it a little bit unorthodox. I didn't want to know the sex of the baby. I wanted it to be something sudden. Kanae knew and she kept the secret pretty good, but he had so much hair and he's a little bit smaller, but he's so strong, his fingers are so small. And he took my finger and squeezed it and it was actually painful. He's very strong. So I have to find a strong name.

12:30:00 John Daub: I'm not going to name the baby Toby. There's certain names that are off. You can leave in the comments your suggestions, but Toby will not. Sadly, well, because some of you might be named Toby—I do respect those named Toby. Look, I'm going to keep my sense of humor. He had a lot of hair and his fingers are so small and he grabbed my finger and squeezed it. Your name suggestions would be really good, actually. And we have 12 days to give the baby a name. I wanted to meet him and then come up with the name. I didn't want to have a kid live it to somebody else's legacy. Girls names are a lot easier in Japanese than boys names. Actually, boys names are harder.

13:36:00 John Daub: I wanted to come up with a name after seeing his face. That really was like connected with who that person was inside outside now. And now I can do that. But I only have twelve days, apparently. I made a list in my head, but they were all—I'll talk about this with you tomorrow. Leave me a comment with some name suggestions and try to remember that he's Japanese and American, so it has to be something that can straddle both worlds. I might not—I'm probably not going to use your suggestion because it's coming from here, but it will be a lot of fun to see what you come up with.

14:29:00 John Daub: I just want to apologize because I got to go to the hospital. I want to apologize to everybody because I kept you in the dark. Some of you knew basically because you might have guessed it or your family. And that means a lot to me. In the worst of times, I would live stream because it made me happy and in the best of times, like right now, this makes me even happier. So I want to say thank you to everybody. I really do have to go to the hospital.

16:16:00 John Daub: I'm a dad. I just want to shout out my friend Paolo and Greg. Paolo had a baby recently and I've been talking with him and Greg as well, who has kids. There are other YouTubers and they have been so good to talk to and made me feel a lot more relaxed. I was a lot more relaxed to talk to other parents and other people who have been through this before. Despite me being a little bit older, this is my first time and everybody's first time is pretty hard. But I think I'll be just fine. All the advice that I've been getting from people, including my own brother and my parents, has been really good. I went over to Paolo's house the other day and he gave me some clothes and a lot of advice. And he's such a good father.

17:01:00 John Daub: The wind's pretty strong here. I'm walking towards the hospital. St. Luke's Hospital. It's a wonderful place in Tsukiji with a lot of history. The first American embassy was here and it's a historical place. It's only about ten, fifteen minutes away from where I live. I'm very very lucky.

18:19:00 John Daub: While I'm walking there, I'm still a YouTuber. Go and watch my Japan's largest earthquakes video as I show you exactly what the great Tohoku earthquake felt like in 2011. That was maybe my worst day. And this is my best day. And I think another big announcement is coming too, because we're like 300 subscribers away from one hundred thousand subscribers on the new channel. Can we get 300 subscribers on the new Only in Japan channel? That'd be pretty crazy.

19:23:00 John Daub: Bye, everybody. I'll talk to you tomorrow. More about this with things settled down a little bit because I am pretty much high strung right now. I'm not naming the baby Toby. It's off the table. You guys are funny. Thanks, everybody.

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