00:00:21 John Daub: Pepsi Refresh Shot. Nice. What does this mean? What is this on my finger? Exactly how did this get here? The answers lie within this can of Refresh Shot.

00:00:38 John Daub: I got married, and life has elevated to another level. It's a level of no boundaries except for what my wife sets. Although she's very, very forgiving with a lot of those boundaries which I break quite often. But for her it was sort of understood what I do for a living. Which is YouTubing. You can't really go back from that. You can only go forward. And she's learned to accept the fact that I quite often YouTube a lot of stuff that maybe I shouldn't. Like the wedding ceremony. Alright, stop. I can't do this cut. It is a little bit more fun with the music though.

00:01:40 John Daub: So I'm just walking around this neighborhood here. It's a really quiet place. I thought this would be a really fantastic place to answer some of your questions about Japanese weddings and my own wedding and these three dogs. Very nice. First and foremost, I just want to say thank you to everybody because we've had so many congratulatory comments and lots of messages from people all over the world. And that's made me really, really happy. So I want to say thank you to everybody who has been supporting for years and years. And now, here I am. I'm married.

00:02:26 John Daub: We've gone, for those who've been watching this show since when I first started in 2013, from that guy that you saw in those first videos at the Naked Man Festival to a man. But you know, I just wanted to take a moment to talk with all of you. We can also try this Pepsi Shot, which I've been dying to do. But I opened this segment by showing the ring. And I went in by doing that, getting a vending machine drink. Now, honestly, I am a really lucky person. I'm typically happy anyways. I'm always happy, well most of the time. But getting married last weekend was just simply awesome.

00:03:24 John Daub: And this is what I want to explain to you about Japanese weddings. Hold on a second, let me just open this up. I've never had this before. Nice sound. Refresh Shot. Because I could use a little refresh. Oh my lord. Whoo! Alright, it did the job. So I'm gonna take your questions first. But there's, I'm gonna right now break the internet, okay? Are you ready for this guys?

00:03:54 John Daub: One of the questions that I've been getting over and over again is who is my wife? And if you guys smash the like button and we get to 500 likes, I will tell you the secret. There, it's going to completely destroy the internet. Well, it'll melt down a couple of people. And you know what? There were about five or six people who got this right. A lot of people have asked me, is my wife Mr. Saichi's granddaughter? Is my wife the granddaughter of my 97-year-old neighbor? And the answer to that is yes. She is the granddaughter of my 97-year-old neighbor. It's not Peter. It's not Jennifer. It's not any of my friends. I've known her for a long time and I met her in New York. And I think though, the best way to introduce her is to let her introduce herself.

00:05:41 John Daub: And if you are married, leave me some marriage advice. Alright? And I'm not going to ask for advice again. But leave me some advice down in the comment section because I want to hear some of the things. Thank you, Oscar. I'm going to go back in and take a look at all of your questions. And I really do appreciate the super chats. They will help to pay for the honeymoon most likely. So, and I'll tell you where she wants to go. If you want, you can guess where she wants to go for the honeymoon. But we've been having a pretty good week. I just moved into a new apartment. Everything is just new in my life.

00:06:28 John Daub: And I think if you've got, if you're married or you've moved or you've had a new job, or if you changed something significant in your life, it's kind of stressful at first. And then you get used to it. You loosen up, you know, like a new baseball glove. And now I'm getting used to life living in a new neighborhood, life living with a new person. Because we didn't live together before we got married. And now everything is just like changed. But I'm sort of good with that. You know, anybody who can run around Okayama City naked in a thong in the middle of winter, I think that's the kind of person that could probably get used to just about anything.

00:07:05 John Daub: Marriage. It's a difficult, complicated word for many. But in the first month or two of marriage, it's a bliss. As you are just happy to be with anybody, really. It is kind of true though, I think. There is sort of a very happy time. Even though we've been dating for a while, it is a really happy time. Because, you know, like you wake up and that person's there. Give me advice, okay? You guys gotta give me advice, wherever you are in the world. Even if you're not married, give me advice how your parents stayed together. I could use all the wedding advice I can get.

00:08:04 John Daub: I asked a lot of my friends advice, and some of the stuff that they gave was like common knowledge, I think. The one thing I said was, I think the best way to grow in this marriage is to just make sure my wife is always happy. And if she's happy, I'll be happy. And if that's how it works, and my friend said, yeah, that, I think you're ready. That's what it was as simple as that. But I think it might be a little bit harder. Because people are going to counseling and doing stuff. I watched Dr. Phil. A lot of people have problems. There's a lot of stuff, problems out there. And I don't want any of that, you know.

00:09:02 John Daub: How will this change the channel? Don't ever go to bed mad at each other. Listen with an open mind. I like this. You have to be very tolerant. Cause it's no longer just you anymore. And this is something I realized when I was getting married. It was no longer just me anymore. Now there was somebody else in my life that I had to take care of. And I think she feels the same way. You can't do stuff like you used to do stuff. You have to think about the other person. So I'm trying to eat healthier now. So that I can stay alive longer. Things like this. I didn't really think about, you know, maybe I shouldn't have that extra donut. Or maybe I shouldn't be having a Pepsi Refresh Shot. If she's watching this, I am so sorry. Honey, I'm having this. Sorry. I feel refreshed though.

00:10:25 John Daub: Don't spy on her at all. I have no intention of spying on her. Because I know her family quite well. And they always really liked me. Especially her grandfather who's 97. And you know, I got along great with him from the start. He's, he loves America. And he has an amazing story. And I'm gonna tell you a little bit about that story. But let me go back to the wedding.

00:10:50 John Daub: Japanese weddings are much more different than Western weddings. As Zane knows, I didn't get married to Jennifer. I got married to my wife, who is Japanese. Jennifer is French. So, process of elimination, my friend. Japanese weddings were very interesting to me. Because it was so radically different than Western weddings. My mom and my dad and my brother and his nieces came. If you looked at Instagram, you'd be able to see those images. They came from the United States, a really long plane ride. And they're in their 70s. So it was a big deal for them to come here. And I really wanted them here.

00:11:30 John Daub: But my mom got upset with the wedding. Because she said, when are you going to kiss the bride? Why didn't you kiss her? And in the Japanese wedding, in the Shinto wedding, you don't kiss. It was weird. And I didn't even realize this. Because I'll be honest with you, I didn't know exactly what was going on. And I think a lot of people, Japanese who are getting Shinto weddings might not know exactly all the stuff that's happening too. Because Japan is such a deep culture with thousands of years of history. And people have been getting married at Shinto shrines for so long. There's so many things. I just don't understand the meaning of it. Like when we drink the sake and I have to lift it three times and then I take a sip out of it. And then we share the cup.

00:12:30 John Daub: And there was the one where we had to hold a twig. And you have to turn the twig a certain way and present it to the altar. And the Shinto priest will bless you, give you a blessing. And it just, it was just so deep. I really honestly did not understand. Even though I researched it, I still couldn't understand a lot of the Shinto wedding. But after it was all done, when we came into the wedding hall, this shrine, my family came in through one door. And her family, my wife's family came in through the other door. And they all sat on different sides. And my father sitting in the front, who didn't know anything how to do. And he had a hard time bowing because he has a bad back.

00:13:52 John Daub: I guess it was speaking to the gods of Izumo. God of Izumo, I apologize for my father. He can't really bow that low because of his back. And he didn't really know how to bow. He'd never really bowed before, really. I'd never seen him bow anyways. Unless he was getting underneath doorways. But he did a really good job. I was quite impressed. What impressed me the most and what moved me was that when both of us were leaving the Shinto hall after getting married, both of the families left together through the same door. And that really made an impact on me. Because that's when I realized that I didn't just get married to my wife. I got married to her family. I got married to all these people that are with us on this special day. And that really meant a lot to me. That in a sense that's a very special part of the Shinto wedding.

00:14:27 John Daub: But still, my mother was not pleased. Oh boy, this Pepsi is kicking my butt. She wanted more. She was relentless with the kiss. She hounded me. As the two of us walked out of the hall into the dining hall. Because we have a party afterwards. And this party is very stiff, kind of. Because the two families are pretty much meeting for the first time. And I'm in a kimono. We're both in kimonos. Just like the livestream I gave a few days ago. And everyone's real stiff. But except for my mom. My mom has never been really stiff. And she kept on going, I'm going to count to ten. And then you should, you have to kiss or something. And she counted down. And I'm like, what do I do? Alright, so I just smooched her. Smooched my wife. And then everyone was happy. And then people, the other family, every time I walked around the table, they kept counting down. And that meant I had to keep kissing her, I guess. So whenever I hear a countdown, I gotta kiss her now. Because that's the, my mom started some sort of weird tradition. So if you see us together, me and my wife, do not count down. Because I gotta smooch her. Stop counting down, internet!

00:16:02 John Daub: Oh, check this out. Look at the kids. I like how Japanese kids, when they're in preschool, they will hold hands and make sure of complete safety. And when they cross traffic lights, they raise their hands. So there's extra precaution. Just wanted to share that with you. Because yeah, these Only in Japan Go streams are not always about me. But today it's a little bit about me because I wanted to talk about the wedding. The messages are coming in really fast. So I'm sorry if I can't read them all. I'm going to look at my second smartphone to try to get some of the answers. But in general, I think the wedding was important for her.

00:17:20 John Daub: When we decided to get married in February, and now I'm going to go back into how the process works a little bit. Japanese people typically get married about, they start planning like a year or more in advance. Now this is so unromantic. I'm a guy that's super spontaneous. Things just go like this. So we had two months to go and a lot of Japanese couples will plan a year in advance. And I said, look, in a year, anything can happen. I think we should just do it. And so when you do it like this, your options of where to get married are quite limited.

00:18:08 John Daub: And I went to Meiji Shrine, which is a very famous shrine in central Tokyo. Meiji Shrine has a sort of mixed bag because a lot of celebrities get married at Meiji Shrine. And there's a lot of divorces from marriages that started at Meiji Shrine. So there's a lot of bad karma in a way. Just a feeling. But Meiji Shrine was kind of pricey. I went to the Meiji Shrine Kaikan and they have a hall where you could eat lunch with your family and they make the food for you. And it was like, for the Shinto wedding ceremony and the food, it was like the cheapest price with a discount was almost $15,000. $15,000 to $20,000 with a discount was Meiji Shrine. And I didn't have a lot of people come to the wedding. I just had family. My family consisted of six people and my best friend Tom.

00:19:24 John Daub: A lot of people said why Peter von Gomm wasn't there. I would not put Peter von Gomm through the rigors of a family wedding like this. Peter von Gomm has his own life to deal with. And my friend Tom came from London. And I was really happy to see him here. Because we've been kids since elementary school. When he moved into the town, I remember the first time playing with him on bicycles. We had little teeny bicycles. We'd ride around the neighborhoods and stuff as kids. But it was great that he made the trip from London over here. To me, the cost of the wedding was not that much of an issue. Because this is something that she wanted to do. And she's very traditional in the sense, like she wanted to have the wedding.

00:20:21 John Daub: Because in Japan, I think it's sort of a big deal for a lot of people. Now, a lot of Japanese are forgoing the wedding. And you're not officially married until you go to City Hall and get the document from the government. So even though we've had the ceremony, we're not still officially married. Which means I could probably run away right now. But I would never do that. I'm just saying. I do have the ring. So to me, this is as official as it gets. The point that I want to make is a lot of young people are not getting married because of the costs. And they'll just get that piece of paper. But for her, she really wanted to have that ceremony because it was important for her family. And it was important for my family to meet like this. And makes it feel more official. And I think it's something that in 10 years and 20 years, you will look back on your wedding day.

00:21:26 John Daub: And for me, I did not care. This is coming from me. I don't have a lot of tradition in my own family. I didn't care about the wedding and this. I said, look, we could go to Vegas. Vegas is sort of romantic. I'll be honest with you. Vegas is like spontaneous. But that's something people do when they've had alcohol and she doesn't drink alcohol. So we planned it in two months. And it was really hard. With editing the videos for Only in Japan and doing some of the other work, plus moving, plus there's a lot of stuff going on in the background. I haven't had any time to do anything. I've been very, very busy, especially with the wedding planning. She handled most of that planning, though, thankfully. And in the end, it turned out really good.

00:21:54 John Daub: A lot of people, as I said, don't do it anymore in Japan. But we got an awesome discount at a place called Hapōen. Hapōen (Japanese garden venue) is a garden in central Tokyo that had a price that was cheaper than Meiji Shrine. Hapōen charged us, I think at the end I paid about $12,000 maybe. And that's, I mean, I could buy a car with that. But I didn't do it for the price. I mean, I'll pay that as long as it takes. I think you do a wedding for your wife and for your family. And for you, also. As just a special day to enjoy. I'll post some of the pictures on Instagram later on. So if you're on Instagram, check it out. We haven't gotten the pictures back from Hapōen. And I'm gonna continue talking a little bit about the wedding for a second. And then I'm gonna go to your questions.

00:23:04 John Daub: And thank you very much for the super chats. Again, I'll answer all of the questions as soon as possible. I promise I finish this livestream. But they took a lot of photos. I want to get them back. And if you guys want to support the channel, the best way to do it is on Patreon. And I have something called the Postcard Club. And this month's postcard will be the best wedding picture at the Japanese Garden. So even if you don't like me, you're gonna get a really great view of a Japanese Garden from Central Tokyo. If you go into Patreon and you want a wedding picture from us. She said she's okay. Hey, if my wife said it's okay, where's her okay? I'm gonna put our wedding photo, the best one at the Garden, on a postcard. And it's gonna be part of the Postcard Club this month. And I only do 125 postcards, so it's kind of limited.

00:24:02 John Daub: I might raise it up to 200 this month because there seems to be a lot of people who want one. But I do appreciate the support. And I want you guys to meet her. And I want you to be nice to her. Or else, you have to deal with me, I guess. I'm used to this. She's not. And that's another reason why a lot of YouTubers that have been married, you see, they don't instantly put their wives or husbands on the channel. I think it takes a little bit of time. And she's getting more and more interested. She at first was very tepid on what I do and this life. But there's really no other way around it. This is how I communicate with people to introduce them to Japan. To show them really interesting things about this country. Including the wedding, I think, is a big part of Japan and its culture.

00:25:12 John Daub: And you get to see at the wedding how they use sake (Japanese rice wine). Which is Japan's drink. They use alcohol as a way to connect people. And I thought that was super interesting to me. As somebody who is fascinated with Japanese culture. We had the wedding ceremony at Hapōen, which cost me $12,000. And it was just an amazing deal. They gave us a massive discount. Because people pay a lot more. Because they plan it a year in advance. We didn't do it properly. But they had one opening on this day. And she had to have it on a weekend. Because her family had time off to come. And my family could come anytime. And we had to do it on a weekend. And this is the one day that it was available. And they gave us a massive discount. And I said, we're doing this. This is just perfect.

00:25:49 John Daub: And I would have paid full price. But it was a good price. You cannot, and that's cheap for Japanese wedding. I asked my Japanese friends how much they paid. Everybody paid like $30,000 or more. And quite often, you do get that money back a little bit. Because in Japan, wedding gifts are cash. And this is something that I knew from going to weddings before. But you typically will give 10,000 yen or like $100. Or 30,000 yen, which is about $300. In an envelope that's very stylish. And you would hand it over. And that would help to cover the wedding costs. And typically you'd never get back all of your money. But wedding presents are usually cash. And that's sometimes not a bad thing. Because as you can see, the weddings are getting expensive.

00:26:54 John Daub: So after you have the wedding ceremony with your family, you wanna get in touch with your friends. And I have a ton of friends. I've been in Japan so darn long. John is one hell of a cheapo. It's true. I do try to be somewhat frugal. Because I am not a rich person. Okay? I gotta try to be frugal sometimes. But the point I'm trying to make is, after you get married and you have the wedding, you wanna meet with your friends. And I've been in Japan so long, most of the friends that I used to have are gone. I'm the last man standing. 20 years I've been here. I've been to hundreds of goodbye parties. If not maybe a thousand sayonara parties. Where people will come to Japan, they're here for a year, and then they go.

00:28:19 John Daub: I get invited to the party to say goodbye. And I'm yawning through. I'm like, yeah, you'll be back. And they never come back. But a lot of my friends have gone back home. Or they themselves are married with kids. And they couldn't make the trip to Japan. But that's okay. Cause I still have some really good friends here in Japan. And the ones that I do have still made it to the party. And I had that at a place called T.Y. Harbor. I wanna give them a plug. Because it's just a fantastic place. T.Y. Harbor is one of my favorite restaurants. It is an amazing place in Shinagawa on the water. And I love it there. Because it's just a calm place. It's a romantic place. And they have this kind of boat-looking room on the water that just goes like this, just a little bit. And around this boat, it's just all glass. And they have these ducks that come around the boat. And you can watch the ducks or feed them. And they make their own craft beer on location. So we had really good beer. An awesome view. The day was perfect like it is today. We had blue skies. It was just an amazing day.

00:29:30 John Daub: And we had more than 80 people come to the wedding party at T.Y. Harbor. And if you do come to Japan, Google this restaurant and just go there. Get a table on the balcony, on the veranda, on the deck. Looking at the river in Shinagawa, the canals. It's just an amazing place to go and eat. There's not too many places like this in Japan. The restaurant's been here for over 20 years. 21 years, I think. And I've been here for 20 years. So I also had that going for us. But I ate there with my wife at the time. And I said, we should ask them if they have availability for wedding party next month. I'm talking like a month before the wedding. We didn't have a place for a second party. And we asked the lady and she goes, yeah, April 21st is available. And the costs were a lot more than a normal restaurant. I'm gonna be honest with you. But it had nothing to do, this is just a badass place. And we had to have the party there. And we had so many people come. And it was an amazing night.

00:30:51 John Daub: My nieces sung the Titanic song to us to the group. And she's an amazing singer. And I think she learned a lot about herself singing in front of a crowd. I might put that video on the Instagram too. To share with you. Everybody was impressed whenever you get an eight or nine year old singing in front of a crowd. It's just too cute. My wife is a modern dancer. She's a ballet dancer. When I watch her dance on stage, and she does performances publicly. So you could go, actually you could, if you're ever here with us, she could promote her dances. And we would love to have you come and watch her dance. Because it is amazing. She can do stuff like jump and flip and splits and things like this. I'm inspired when I watch her dance. So that's another thing. When your wife or your husband has a job that's inspiring, it does make you love them even more. Because I know she goes through a lot of training and long days of physical use of her body for dancing. So I respect that a lot.

00:32:11 John Daub: So we had her friends, which are all dancers. And a lot of them came. And I think one of them, she had some of her students who were very young dancers. And that was so cute. And then one of her friends, Yuri, danced in front of the crowd. And it was just an amazing dance. She does TV commercials here, dancing. And it was very amazing. I was so happy to have so many people come to the wedding party and make it a special day for us. And the cake and the food and the booze, the location, the faces, the friendly faces, the pictures that people were taking, the memories. It was just an awesome day. At the end of it, we were just completely exhausted. My family had massive jet lag from coming from the United States. They went back to the hotel. We stayed to have a drink. I bought Peter von Gomm a drink.

00:33:04 John Daub: Peter von Gomm, for those of you wondering where he was in the wedding, he came to the second party. And Mr. Peter von Gomm, please subscribe to his channel. He's an awesome guy. And he's very creative. And he's doing stuff. He reads books to kids now with his awesome voice. If Peter is trolling, that's fine. Peter von Gomm is a good troll. He's not a bad troll. Peter von Gomm sometimes is overzealous with banning people. And I think he made one viewer angry. And he said Peter stinks. Sorry, Peter von Gomm. But don't ban anybody, Peter von Gomm. I think I took his rights away as a moderator actually. But Peter von Gomm's channel is almost at 5,000 subscribers. So just a shout out to him. He has some amazing content. And he's reading books using that voice of God to share the gift of story through the books. And it's a pretty cool concept. And of course, his son Joji is in it. And Joji was at the wedding. And Joji was super cool. Joji was like my bro.

00:34:13 John Daub: I could talk to him about stuff. Same as my friend Joseph Tame. He was at the party. He's the guy who runs the Tokyo Marathon with lights and live streams it. And he was in the toilet episode in Only in Japan. Joseph came with his son Ricky and his new son Jack. And Ricky stole the show as well. Ricky was photobombed every single photo with all of the dancing girls. Ricky was an amazing person. Peter von Gomm did an awesome job emceeing the event. And I want to say thank you to him once again even though he did rip on me a couple of times. Calling me a cheapskate and holding nothing back. It did add a little bit of spice to the wedding party. And we had a lot of fun. I have to say thank you to Peter von Gomm for helping me. I'm paying you back in plugs, okay? Peter von Gomm. Small v. Gets angry if you use a big V.

00:35:31 John Daub: Peter von Gomm is the guy in Only in Japan who will say, only in Japan. Do you know the opening of the show in the first 10 seconds? That's Peter von Gomm. Peter von Gomm is a regular guest on the Only in Japan Go stream, which is this one. And he often keeps it real. He's pretty natural in front of the camera. And I've known him for a long time. And we have sort of a good catch ball with each other. You know, we can kind of have some fun and almost answer each other's sentences, which is pretty cool. Because I can kind of understand what's going through his sometimes very warped mind. Which is why you should go and see his channel. Some of the stuff with Captain Kirk from Star Trek really is inspirational. I'm just saying.

00:36:23 John Daub: Back to the wedding. So I think maybe next week or sometime in May, I'm going to introduce you to my wife. And she's going to answer your questions. And when she does, try to be nice to her. The things that you know about her is that she's a modern dancer and a ballet dancer. She's studied. She got a scholarship from Japan to go and study in the United States to learn dancing. And she's really, really good at it. I met her in New York. I will tell you the story in more details when she's on here. Because I want to share this experience with you guys. The first time she's on the YouTube. And she might have already been actually. But never really talking to you guys. And I want her to like what I do for a living.

00:37:26 John Daub: If she can get really comfortable, I think she's going to let me do more location shoots. Because you know, I am like traveling all over Japan all the time. And I wasn't married. And that's okay to do when you're an unmarried dude and you're traveling. Now, when you're traveling all over the place and you're married, it's totally different. Because now you have a wife to worry about. So I want her to be happy. So I can continuously do Only in Japan and travel all around the country. And she seems to be okay with that. So when she comes on next week, I just wanted to tell you just to be kind to her and not troll her too much. You can troll her a little bit. That's fine. That's the way YouTube works. But I want her also to allow me to go out on these trips and to know you guys who are watching. Because if you're regular to the Only in Japan Go channel, I think we know each other. I know the people who are always chatting in. And the supporters on Patreon. I know you guys. So you're like family to me. But she doesn't know that. So I have to introduce her to this world.

00:38:48 John Daub: Some of the questions. Please, if you have any, I'm now here to answer. I've rapped on for about 38 minutes. So that's more than enough. Does she know English? Yes. She studied in the United States as a dancer. So she was there for a year when I met her. How long did you date her? It was a long time. I'm going to let her tell you that story, too. It wasn't just last year. It was a while. Honeymoon. She wants to go to the Maldives. I've been to the Maldives as a backpacker. And a little birdie there. She wants to go to the Maldives. And right now it's the rainy season. The Maldives is near India. And I really want to go back to India and see my family there. Because a lot of them couldn't make the trip. So I want to go to India and introduce her to my family in India. Because my mother's side of the family comes from there.

00:39:55 John Daub: She's already met my father's side of the family. She came to the United States with me at Christmas. So she met my family in the United States. She can speak English. It's not the best English. But my Japanese is better than her English. But she's probably improving a lot faster than I'm going to be improving my Japanese. How did I propose? You know what? I don't think I really did a good job of proposing. I just asked her. I didn't do anything like dramatic. I just sort of, let's get married. Do you want to get married? I wasn't very romantic. I think maybe I'll get a do-over. Maybe. I think it would be romantic to propose while traveling maybe. You can propose after you're married. I think it's always just a romantic gesture. Whenever a man gets down on his knees, it's just special. If I can. I'm not a very good proposer. I can do better. In fact if you want to share your proposal stories, write it in the comments below.

00:41:16 John Daub: Kids. She wants five kids. Moment of silence for me. Because I just want, five kids. But you know, you don't have five kids all at once. And I think after one or two, she'll learn. The mothers out there will know. And if anyone has five kids, let me know how you live. Tokyo is going to be really hard to live in with any kids. The one reason why Japan's birth rate is declining I think is because it's really hard to have families in Japan. The costs are high. Everything costs a lot of money. So I have to make a lot of money in order to have five kids. I did the math with a friend of mine. A Japanese friend of mine. He has two kids. And he said that in Japan you have to plan it. And I told you I'm a spontaneous guy. It's just going to be hard. But you know, you have to make your wife happy.

00:42:48 John Daub: Oscar writes, I have two kids. They're great. But no more. I'm hearing that like live, very loudly. Five is a lot. Three, you know. I asked my mom and she said that she wanted just two. And that she had one more. And she said, oh brother, that was too much. And then my youngest brother, he's a handful. So yeah, that third one is hard. And then that fifth one, I think. But if you go to three, why not just go to five? Scratchy writes in that his wife wants four. And Lloyd says he has six. People are having kids. And people are not telling me to run. Which is kind of funny.

00:43:36 John Daub: Can you explain the symbolism of her headwear? Joanne, who is a patron supporter, had given me a history lesson on this. What I know is this. There were two kinds of head gears. One of them was the one that she picked, which is a little bit more modest. Inside of it was like a metal frame. And it was extremely heavy for her head. She has a very like pencil neck. And it was very heavy for her neck. And I don't think it's the most attractive hat. But there was also another hat where she had to wear a wig in order for the hat to fit. And she was against that hat because it was even heavier. So the symbolism between the hats, I'm going to have her explain it to you. Because I think she can do that.

00:44:31 John Daub: Lord Kyron, congratulations. Thank you very much for the wedding gift. These are humble. I'm looking at the super chats. Kenji, I'm a frugal guy too. I use Spofie.com. I don't know what that is. But that sounds like something that might be in my category here. T4 Kut0, congratulations. I have been a fan of yours since Tokyo Eye Day. Because Tokyo Eye goes back like to 2008. I've been doing that show for 10 years. Your episodes were always the best. Thank you. And I hope that you and your wife have a happy life together. Thank you very much.

00:45:12 John Daub: Hermant, congratulations. John's, I enjoy vicariously through you. And can't wait to visit next year. Awesome. Please make it to Japan. And I will be here permanently now. Because I live here in Japan. I'm married now to someone Japanese. I can't go. So thank you very much. Omedetō. Arigatō gozaimasu. Willie, you need to listen to her. And I hope that you have a wonderful life and a great marriage. I've watched you since the days. And I'm so happy for you. Thank you very much, Willie. You need to listen to her. That is such an important key. To people in general. We do a lot of talking. Listening is also something that we all do more of. Maybe.

00:46:26 John Daub: Except for my friend Tom. He listens too much. So I overcompensate by doing more talking. He was voted shyest in high school. And I was the class photographer for their yearbook. So I had him hide behind a tree for the yearbook. That was pretty funny. It was a special moment. One of my best friends was in. I get to take his picture for the yearbook. Because he won a contest as the class's most shy. But he listens really well. So I can take some cues from him. Listening is, I will always stop and listen. And you know what? You have to make time for people. And when your family needs you, you have to stop work. You have to stop what you're doing. And just make time for them. Even if it's hard. You have to make the time for them. In Japan, the company comes before the family. That's one thing I don't think I could do that. To me, the family comes before the company. Family is something that they support you through everything. And that's important to me.

00:47:25 John Daub: Will you do midnight snack runs together? Yes. I don't think that my life is going to change much. How will my life change now that I am married? How will this channel change? As I was saying, I don't think it will. I'm still going to do midnight snack runs. Ellis, man, you didn't have to do that. Ellis and Dave. Ellis, I'm going to give you a shout out. You guys are so nice. Ellis and Dave are the only two people that are viewers that have met me and my wife. Because when we were in New York visiting my family, Ellis and Dave took us out to dinner. And I'm sorry if I'm telling everybody this. But two of the nicest people I've ever met. And they're very special to me and my wife. Because they're the first two people that we met that were viewers of Only in Japan.

00:48:46 John Daub: Nathan, that is an awesome idea. Let's do the midnight snacks together. She's, she goes to bed early. And I edit the videos until daylight. So we have different rhythms a little bit. But I think I can get her to stay up. And I think I can get her to do a midnight snack run with us. I think I can do it. And if you don't watch the Only in Japan Go channel, I do this thing called midnight snack runs. And it's pretty cool. Because in the middle of the night, I'll just go throughout somewhere in Tokyo. Usually my neighborhood. And just get food at midnight. It's a lot of fun. I can't thank you guys enough for all these super chats. This is incredible. This is all going to the honeymoon. So it's going to a good cause.

00:49:39 John Daub: And this is an excuse for me to maybe stream a little bit there. I can say you guys helped me get there. Some YouTubers don't want to show their kids. They don't want to show much about their family, about their life. I think it's very hard to separate your life from your job when you do something like this. Because this Only in Japan Go channel in particular is very much dependent on me. This is more of a vlog. More dependent on my life. As I'm showing you something of me about this Japan. Because we have a lot more time. And we have a freer format. She understands that this is my job. Now. I do NHK. I do client work. I do a lot of other things. But this is the main thing I do. And it's just so much fun. And she knows that. She knows I light up when I do live streams.

00:51:04 John Daub: And I want viewers, when I do these live streams, I see everybody as like friends. I see them as like family. Like when I saw Ellis chime in. Or I see Nochi. Or I see Jim. Or I see Nosh. I mean, I get like really happy because this is like seeing my friends. There's people all over the world. I can't mention everybody but I get really happy. And I can't meet all of you all the time. But when I'm on this live I can. And I would hope that my family would be okay with sharing their likes and dislikes and their lives with you as friends and family. You know the internet is a dangerous place. It's a strange place. It's a lot of strange people out there, but there's a lot of awesome people out there, too. And these are the people who are a big part of the success of my channel. Only in Japan Go and the third channel and everything that I do as a YouTuber is dependent on you guys.

00:52:21 John Daub: Yeah, I don't see how I can separate my life. I think that's disingenuous. I don't think it's authentic. I think it's not real. I think if I did that I would feel that there's a part of me that you guys don't know about me. And that doesn't make me happy to hide stuff. I'm pretty open about almost everything. Michaela J, thank you. Don't be fussed about the proposal. Some are so staged and over time they never matter. They are a matter of love. The husband proposed when we were in a car park. But you know what that's sometimes the story. And I think the proposal should not overshadow the wedding. The proposal should be romantic but I think that's just a moment where you probably have already said yes by the time the proposal comes. Marriage is a marathon and this is something that, you know, I've run marathons. I know. When you're 44 and you know that things don't come immediately and you have to be patient with things in your life and as the marriage goes on, I'm probably gonna change as a person.

00:54:03 John Daub: I know there's gonna be tough situations or maybe moments where she's not happy about me YouTubing or live-streaming, but we'll work through it. But right now we're in the honeymoon phase and we don't get that problem at all. So it's cool. We're having fun. I do apologize. There will be another main channel episode coming soon. I think by the end of this month and then I'm going to Osaka to film and I might do a small meetup with Kevin in Osaka in May. So that's something you guys could look forward to.

00:54:43 John Daub: We can end it with this. This is the biggest livestream that we've ever had on the Only in Japan Go channel. And I'm so thankful for always having your support. I'm so thankful for your support. And you know, it's not everybody who has so many people watching their YouTube channel and I feel very blessed to have the following that I have. And very blessed to have the life that I have for the last 20 years living here in Japan. And when my parents were here, I felt blessed to have had the childhood that I had, to have the love that I've had. I feel blessed to be surrounded by amazing people all the time. It's kind of emotional to think because now the images of my parents and the images of my family and the images of all the people that are in my life flash into my mind as I just simply end a livestream. It's hard, but I see a lot of people commenting now and I have no real words other than just thank you a hundred thousand times to say I appreciate everything.

00:56:01 John Daub: This is the biggest I've ever had with the super chats as well and the most comments that we've ever had. I'm looking forward to watching this livestream back. I'm trying not to get emotional. I'm gonna go back and look at the livestream in the chat to read what you guys are writing because it's moving pretty fast. And I do try to respond to all of the messages that you write. Edgar, thank you. I'm not gonna cry. Well it's not trouble when my wife was crying a lot when we were getting married and I didn't cry at all. I was just happy. But saying goodbye is always hard. And if you know me these livestreams always go on like 10 minutes longer probably a little bit more than normal because I hate to say goodbye.

00:56:57 John Daub: Hold on a second. So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna tell you a little bit before I leave. This neighborhood is called Tsukuda. It's in Tsukishima, uh that's the nearest train station. These high-rise mansions are where a lot of people live. This is more downtown Tokyo, more central. And I like this area very, very quiet. It's a good place if you were to have a family. And if I lived in central Tokyo I would want to live here. And this is just an amazing place. I just feel very blessed right now. So thank you all very much. I'll do another livestream now that we've gotten this out of the way. I had to talk about the wedding and take your questions. There are so many of them and I didn't expect so many people to come and watch although I did promote this a little bit more than I do some of the other livestreams.

00:58:16 John Daub: I try not to get emotional. You know I will do another livestream maybe later today. My friend Tom is here visiting and I'm going to a Japanese baseball game. I was invited by my friend who's in Yokohama. He has a product that sponsors the baseball team in Yokohama. I'm going to be at a Japanese baseball game in Yokohama today. It starts around six o'clock and I might livestream a little bit there. Some of the guys came and we got food, yes the BayStars. And I was invited to go to this game and my friend has invited my wife and me and my friend to go there, the three of us. And I don't know if I'm going to introduce you to my wife there but I'm going to try to livestream later on today and if I can at the BayStars game just a little bit to give you a taste of Japanese baseball.

00:59:24 John Daub: Anyways there will be more livestreams now and I'm happy that we could talk about the wedding and I could show you the lord of the rings. If you're joining us now, you missed it. I said it all and it's over. But I started with this and I'm going to end with this. If my wife is watching, thank you very much for marrying me. I'm one lucky guy and thanks for waiting so long. I'll do the best that I can to make you as happy as possible. I think that's the promise that I can make publicly. I'm making it publicly. So there's 1500 people watching. I just made this publicly. I think it's a promise that I can keep. It's a promise that I will work at every day and not forget.

01:00:31 John Daub: If you're married and you're watching this, give me some advice down below. A friend of mine, another YouTuber friend who's married, I asked him advice about his marriage and he gave me some amazing advice that I think I can live with. You learn from other people. I think listening is so important and I listened to him. I didn't say a word. I just listened to what he had to say about how he's made his wife happy for almost 11 years this year. And it was just to me, I was soaking up every single word that he said. Women read books on how to be a good wife. There's a lot of books on this. But men, there's not a lot of good books on how to be a better husband. And I kind of hope. So Michele says, you are talking about Simon. Yeah, okay. Maybe I am. But what he says is so true. There's just not enough information on how we can be better husbands. And I think he's the ultimate husband and I hope to be as good, if not better.

01:01:47 John Daub: Because I am somewhat competitive, to be even a better husband if I can. And I think you strive and you challenge yourself to do that. And yeah, if you're married right now and your wife is watching with you, give her a big hug and a kiss and just know that marriage is special. This is just another stage in my life. I'm the same person and in other ways I'm not. Joseph writes in, divorce twice so I will stay quiet. Thanks, Joseph. But read you, brother. I have a lot of friends who told me not to get married at all. And you know, I've never been married. I'm 44. And almost all my friends are married now. Or were married. So I think it's good. I'm happy. And happiness is the secret to life. To me the secret of life is try to stay as happy as much as you can. And that means sometimes you're gonna be unhappy because that's a good balance. You can't be happy all the time. But to try to maintain the happiness as often as you can is sort of the secret to life to me.

01:02:59 John Daub: So, with that said, keep in touch guys. I'm not going anywhere. The livestreams will continue. We have an amazing summer coming. I'm so happy that you're joining me on this Only in Japan Go channel because we're gonna have some amazing livestreams coming up. I've been planning this. Whenever you don't see me for a couple of days, I have been scheming. And we have some amazing livestreams and amazing episodes coming on Only in Japan. So stick with the channel and you're gonna see some evolution that you've never seen before because I am super excited about the future. I've never been this excited about the future. And wherever you're watching this show from, I hope you get really excited too because this is an amazing year, 2018. Two years before the Tokyo Olympics. I am totally stoked. So thanks again for watching. I appreciate the support and the love from all over the world.

01:03:54 John Daub: This last sip of Pepsi Refresh is for you guys. Which is a big mistake because it is completely warm. An hour will do that. See ya. Have a good day or good night wherever you are in the world. Love you very much. And I will be back again. Spend the next 20 seconds looking at this pole. Let me just pan over here. At this really cool neighborhood called Tsukuda. And come for a visit.